What is Unresolved Trauma and Why Should I Care?

Trauma defined is a deeply disturbing experience.  It can be a physical injury or an experience that affected you mentally or emotionally.

Physical trauma is quite obvious.  Emotional or mental trauma can be much harder to see and because of this it often goes undiagnosed.

Luckily, there are signs that trauma could be holding you back from living the life you’ve always wanted.

  1. Procrastination
  2. Depression or anxiety
  3. Unexplained chronic pain
  4. Isolation
  5. Addiction or obsessing and of course there are more!

I remember being told years ago when my grandmother passed away I was just taking longer to go through the stages of grief and healing.  They are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance, not in that order always.)

The really interesting thing is this:

I knew exactly why I was not working through the grief I felt.  And when I told the therapist, she had no clue or understanding as to how to help me.  It was very frustrating and in the end highly time consuming and expensive!

The real issue that most people need to have solved is typically something that traditional therapists and even highly trained clergy miss!

This is the SOLUTION:

Compassionate open hearted therapy that takes into consideration the brain, the body and the mind in the healing of trauma.

One of the biggest challenges I struggled with when my grandma passed was that for my entire life (39 years) I had simply wanted to sit in her presence without the cloud of sexual abuse hanging over my head.

You see her son had abused me for about a decade.  Once she passed, that dream was shattered.  Now, my brain knew that logically there was no way I could have that opportunity.  My mind, well it struggled and did alot of bargaining with God.  But the real issue was my body!

You see over the years, my body had bought into the idea that I could eventually have what it truly desired and my imagination even played along giving my body the feeling it needed to be happy. For me this was survival!

When the devastating news came that she had passed, I was crushed!  I remember telling people I felt like Humpty Dumpty except that there were no kings horses or men that cold put me back together again.

Well, thank God I was wrong!


I can’t tell you the story of exactly how I brought to me the things I needed to have that experience I truly needed with my grandmother because it’s too long for this blog post, but I have put together a list of the top five things I did to work through the unresolved trauma so I could move forward with my life.



  1. Meditate by simply focusing on your breath
  2. Increase Prana by creating space to breath consciously twice daily
  3. Allow yourself to feel, to relax, to just BE
  4. Cry because emotions are released that way
  5. Get support by someone who’s been in your shoes

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